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A Caring Guy Is a Hot Guy

What do women want? For those who've ever pondered this question, here are 19 relationship secrets. They're based on the study of healthy, happy couples and our changing gender roles. Secret No. 1: Women appreciate a guy with a sensitive side, especially when they're upset. Put your arm around her and hand her a tissue. Nurturing is a powerful way to connect.

Chivalry Still Has a Place

When it comes to romance, many women do like men to take a traditional masculine role. This is especially true in the wooing stage of a relationship, according to psychologist Diana Kirschner, PhD, who's written several books about love. She's perfectly capable of pulling out her own chair or opening a door, but if you see her hesitate, she might just be waiting for you to be the gentleman.

Dress to Impress

Styles come and go, but a man's attention to his grooming and clothing should be long lasting. It's important to women from the first flirtation through the honeymoon and beyond. "You've got to figure out if there's a certain look that she likes," says Kirschner. "If she likes a guy in tight jeans, you wear tight jeans."

Guy Wears Red, Guy Gets Girl

OK, this tip doesn't come from women, but from clever testing by psychologists of women's subconscious preferences. One intriguing study found that the color red made men seem more powerful, attractive, and sexually desirable to women. There's a caveat, though. Red doesn't make guys appear nicer or kinder. That part is up to you.

Don't Hide Your Flaws

Nothing captures a woman's heart quite like a good man who wants to be a better man, according to love guru Kirschner. "Women love personal growth, they love a man who is thoughtful and sensitive." She likes it when her man recognizes a flaw -- a short temper, for example, or a regularly sullen mood after work -- and loves it when he makes an effort to address it.

Don't Try to Fix Her World

When something's bothering her, she wants your ear, not your advice. "Men feel the need to fix things because they are solution-oriented," says Kirschner. "But to a woman, really listening is a wonderful, wonderful thing that deepens the relationship."

Nodding Is Not Enough

Listening is important, but she also wants to know that she is being heard. Nodding along won't cut it. When she pauses, she's giving you a cue to respond in a compassionate, caring way, says Kirschner. If she tells you that she is upset because her boss gave her a tough time, she wants to hear you say, "I'm sorry that work was such a drag for you today." And remember: Resist the urge to offer solutions.

Date No. 3 Is Not a Bedroom Key

The three dates before sex rule is an urban legend. Women don't set a timeline on when they'll invite a potential partner into the bedroom. Some women will want to have many dates before sex. A good rule of thumb is to give the relationship at least two months to grow before entering the sexual arena.

Women Like the Slow Lane

Guys often want to take the quickest path to sex. But many women prefer the scenic route. "Women want sex but they get to it in a different way," says psychologist Kirschner, who has helped hundreds of couples achieve a more rewarding relationship. "They want to feel connected and understood, they want to be romanced." That means time and talking and touching -- in other words, foreplay.

Safe Sex Is a Turn-On

This is something both of you need to focus on, but Kirschner says that women appreciate it and feel more protected when the guy makes it clear that it's a concern to him -- and then shows her that he practices what he preaches.

Learn What She Wants in Bed

Women do like to talk to about what's going on in the sack, and they want to please their man -- and a tactful approach is often best. Ask her what she likes. Be sure to ask for what you want in a positive and validating way. Kirschner advises saying something along the lines of, "I would really love if you [fill in the blanks]."

Performance Anxiety Is Shared

When you have an off night and can't perform, she feels bad, too. She might worry that she no longer turns you on and she will want assurance that that is not true. She will want to talk about what's going on and what you are doing about it, especially if it's a recurring problem. "It's a touchy thing for both of 

Mirroring Is a Barometer of Love

Remember the saying "imitation is the highest form of flattery"? A woman often conveys how she feels about you by mirroring your moods and moves. She may order a meal that pairs with yours, wear your favorite color, or smile or cross her arms when you do. Mimicking is her way of putting you at ease and letting you know she is charmed.

Your Shirt May Be a Love Magnet

Does your partner curl up in your sweater or sneak into your work shirt? Some researchers have found that the scent of a man's perspiration has a relaxing effect on women.

Say It, Again and Again

Women like to be told they look nice, and they like a man who notices without being told. When she's wearing a sexy new dress, for example, she'll give you major points for saying how hot she looks, especially if you mention the dress before she does. If she's looking particularly attractive, if she has a new haircut, if she's looking more fit -- let her hear about it.

Don't Fear the Relationship Talk

When your woman wants to talk about the relationship, it doesn't mean you did something wrong (well, not necessarily). Kirschner says that many women like to talk about the "state of the union" -- what's going right, what's going wrong, or simply what's going on. This is a good thing. An honest, wide-ranging talk can bring the two of you closer.

Look Your Partner in the Eye

You may feel more comfortable sitting side by side, but many women prefer face time -- and we don't mean the latest mobile video chat technology. Kirschner says that women prefer their men to make eye contact with them as they're talking. And looking her in the eye during sex will deepen the relationship outside the bedroom.

Don't Miss the Moment

How do you know if she is ready to commit? She'll say so. This is something that women are often quite up front about. But they don't want to have "the talk" too often. If she's ready and she's given you time, the next time the subject comes up, be prepared to step up or step off.

Romance Is Simple; Keep It Coming

Romance is something she will always want, whether you've been together two months or 20 years. Flowers, an intimate dinner, a few lines of love poetry -- don't worry, they don't have to be your own -- might sound cliché, but Kirschner insists that most women appreciate such simple romantic gestures and often show their appreciation after the lights go down.

SO U HAD UR HEART BROKEN..........

BY Cathy Cox

At some point, everyone has experienced a broken heart. The cheating spouse or deceiving romantic partner leaves us with a sense of betrayal we don’t think we’ll ever recover from, so we declare, “I’ll never trust anyone again!” However, after time passes, you want to reach out again. You want a new partner, but how can you move forward knowing what happened in the past?

Trusting others begins with trusting yourself; start by becoming aware of your intuition. Yes, you have an unconscious knowledge, a place where you know without knowing how you know. Whether you realize it or not, you make unconscious evaluations everyday without relying on logic or reasoning.

If someone is staring at you from across the room, you feel it before you even turn to see who it is. You instinctively respond to drivers swerving towards your lane. You read people’s faces to determine their mood or reactions. Every moment of every day, your intuition feeds you information about what is going on around you with greater speed and more accuracy than conscious thought.

Applying your intuition to future relationships, begin by doing a simple “postmortem” on the event that broke your heart. Look back carefully at the details and specifics of the event, and how it played out. Did you say to yourself later, “Unconsciously, I guess I knew.” Then, at some level, you did know, your brain just didn’t want to accept that information.

With our intimate partners, our minds edit out unusual behaviors and miss details. We consciously see things as we always have. Our minds like order. Eventually, when things are wrong, there's a tipping point at which one tiny detail, one revelation, uncovers the full picture of betrayal, and we feel crushed. As painful as that experience is, it brings your awareness to the surface and allows you to learn to trust again.

You acutely know when things aren't right, which also means you know when things are OK. You actually know when someone can be trusted! As Gavin De Becker points out in his bookThe Gift of Fear, “Predicting the routine behavior of adults in the same culture is so simple, in fact, that we rarely even bother to do it consciously. We react only to the unusual, which is a signal that there may be something worth predicting.”

Intuition can always be trusted when your judgement is clear, and it's not just one too many glasses of wine that impairs your judgement. The overly attractive, or lavishly spending date can blind you to signs that you need to see. The initial infatuation with a new person can impair your intuitive gift. Always give yourself time to view the whole picture.

Your present and your future are not your past. As you learn to trust yourself through your deepest knowing, your intuition, you can begin to trust others because you do know.

4 QUALITIES THAT MAKE A REAL MAN

My goal in writing this post isn’t to sell you my definition of man. It’s to challenge your beliefs. Years ago, while working at a non-profit and treating teenagers struggling with addiction, I learned that what they all had in common was an absent father. Either dad was not in the picture or he was emotionally unavailable. The result was blurred boundaries, low self worth, and very little awareness. It caused anger, and emotional voids that were filled with unhealthy habits.

Today in my practice, a common thread with many of my female clients is the way were treated by men and the affect it has on them. I believe men underestimate the impact they have in this world. I believe definitions need to be challenged. I believe every man should posses these four characteristics.

1. Men respond.

For the 40 years I’ve been on this planet, generally (and I emphasize “generally” because I know not all guys are like this), most males don’t think of how their words and actions will affect others. An example of this is a husband who assassinates his wife’s character or verbally vomits on his children. Someone who gets into physical altercations to prove something. Someone who pulls from his ego instead of his heart.

It takes discipline, patience, and maturity to filter oneself and think about others before one responds. A response requires thought, meta-cognition. A reaction is instinctual. Boys react. Men respond.

2. Men look inward first.

They are willing to examine their defects. They practice transparency and non-defensiveness. They express how they feel. They don’t try to be someone they’re not. By walking with a mirror, they don’t get caught up in heated arguments. They handle confrontations by acknowledging, taking responsibility, and making choices. And they move forward, changed.

3. Men have a cause.

Something worth fighting for. It doesn’t have to be to end world hunger. It can be to save a marriage. Fighting for one’s position in life. Expressing art. Sharing gifts. Being a better version of oneself. Something he believes in, even if others don’t. Whether it’s one’s character or an empire, men build. Boys deconstruct.

4. Men take action.

Boys complain. I have to admit, I have only recently made a choice to stop complaining when things don’t go my way in life. Many habits like complaining and losing one’s temper stem from undisciplined thinking and the inability to manage emotions. I know many men who talk about change. Who talk about wanting to “fix” their relationship. To lose weight. Be a better father. To stop drinking, cheating, spending, hiding, and numbing. But only a few take action and climb that mountain daily. Only a few fall down over and over but keep getting back up. Only a few put their money where their mouth is.

Think about all the men you know in your life. Friends. Fathers. Uncles. Brothers. Coaches. Boyfriends. Husbands. How many posses all four? If they do, acknowledge them. Because we need more of them in this world.

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SENAMAN MENGUATKAN TENAGA BATIN LELAKI

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Senaman Kemut Kemutan

SENAMAN kemutan dilakukan dengan mencengkam otot pembukaan lubang kencing dan dubur atau mencengkam otot lantai pelvis. Dalam erti kata lain, ia seperti menahan kencing atau membuang air besar.




Senaman ini jarang dilakukan secara sengaja dan jika dilakukan, kebiasaannya dalam keadaan tertentu saja. Jika dilakukan sama ada oleh lelaki atau wanita, mereka terasa kurang selesa.




Lelaki akan terasa dubur seperti tersekat dan jika membuang air besar akan terasa seperti sembelit. Jika menghidap buasir, ia lebih menyakitkan.




Bagi wanita, mereka akan rasa terangsang pula, terutama jika kedua-dua paha dirapatkan. Tetapi, jika paha direnggangkan sedikit mungkin rasa terangsang itu kurang atau tiada.




Amalan mengemut ini ada kebaikannya. Bagi lelaki, kemutan dapat membina otot benteng pangkal zakar dan memadatkan pangkal zakar serta menolak pengaliran darah ke hujung zakar menjadikannya lebih padat dan besar.




Bagi wanita pula, ia boleh menyempitkan pembukaan faraj supaya angin tidak keluar masuk ketika wanita berkenaan bergerak sewaktu melakukan persetubuhan.




Apa yang pasti, senaman kemut dapat membantu melangsingkan otot kemutan dan mengeratkan hubungan silaturahim dengan pasangan. Malah, hubungan se*sual menjadi lebih seronok dan lebih merangsangkan.




Senaman kemutan tidak dapat menjadikan zakar lebih panjang atau besar seperti yang dipaparkan dalam internet yang menjual kaedah membesarkan zakar dengan cara senaman kemutan kononnya ia amalan orang Arab.




Ada kaedah yang membahayakan seperti 'Jelquing' atau menarik zakar yang lembik dengan alat 'roller' yang dilakukan secara kasar. Ia boleh merosakkan struktur zakar! Hanya kaedah penarikan tisu secara beransur ansur atau 'controlled tisue extension' menggunakan alat andropenis dapat membantu proses pembesaran zakar lelaki secara kekal.




Jangan terpedaya dengan iklan yang memaparkan pelbagai teknik pembesaran zakar. Lelaki yang mahu membesarkan zakar perlu tahu bahawa zakar itu elastik. Ia boleh membesar dalam keadaan terangsang dan mengecil jika dalam keadaan biasa.




Jadi, tidak hairan jika alat pam vakum dan alat penarik tanpa kawalan membesar dan memanjangkan zakar tetapi pembesaran ini tidak kekal. Apabila alat berkenaan tidak digunakan mengikut jadual, tumbesaran yang berlaku akan merosot dan zakar akan kelihatan seperti biasa




AKHIR KATA...APA LAGI....MARI KITA MENGEMUT...
JANGAN BERLENGAH LAGI..




Senaman kemutan atau kegel dapat menyihatkan organ seks




Senaman kemutan dilakukan dengan membabitkan gerakan mencengkam otot pembukaan lubang najis dan lubang kencing atau mencengkam otot lantai pelvis, eolah-olah mahu menahan kencing atau tahan membuang air besar dan ianya perlulah dilakukan secara serentak. Teknik senaman ini amat jarang dilakukan secara sengaja dan jika dilakukan pun, biasanya dalam keadaan tertentu seperti menahan kencing apabila tandas penuh. Dan kesannya, jika senaman kemutan ini dilakukan oleh mana-mana individu, baik lelaki atau perempuan, perasaan kurang selesa akan wujud.




Semasa melakukan senaman ini para lelaki akan terasa lubang najis tersempal dan jika buang air besar terasa seperti sembelit dan ini akan memberikan masalah kepada pengidap buasir. Bagi wanita pula jika senaman kemutan itu dilakukan, dia akan rasa terangsang, lebih-lebih lagi jika kedua-dua paha itu dirapatkan. Jadi paha seeloknya direnggangkan sedikit untuk mengurankan perasaan terangsang tersebut.




Cara melakukan senaman kemut ini untuk lelaki ialah seperti berikut, rapatkan kedua-dua paha dan mencengkam lubang najis dan lubang kencing sekali gus dengan padat dan tahan nafas seketika antara tiga hingga lima saat, legakan kemutan dan ulangi sehingga sepuluh kali. Lakukannya lima kali sehari dan setiap kali cengkam sepuluh kali. Ketika melakukan senaman kemut, lelaki tersebut perlu berada dalam keadaan yang selesa iaitu sudah buang air besar dan kecil.




Amalan mengemut ini mempunyai kebaikannya yang tersendiri. Bagi lelaki, kemutan dapat membina otot benteng pangkal zakar yang mana jika zakar erek, mengemut dapat memadatkan pangkal zakar dan menolak serta memerah darah hala ke depan dan menjadikan penghujung zakar lebih padat dan kembang, seolah-olah zakar kelihatan besar pada bahagian depan!



Untuk wanita pula, amalan kemutan dapat melangsingkan corong faraj dan menyempitkan pembukaan faraj yang renggang. Dengan corong faraj yang sempit dan kemas, angin tidak akan mudah masuk ketika wanita bergerak dan hubungan kelamin tidak akan berbunyi seperti angin keluar-masuk!



Amalan mengemut dapat membantu melangsingkan otot kemutan dan membantu mengintimkan hubungan silaturrahim dengan pasangan. Hubungan seksual menjadi lebih seronok dan lebih memberangsangkan. Walaubagaimanapun senaman kemutan tidak akan dapat membina zakar menjadi panjang atau besar seperti mana maklumat dalam internet yang menjual kaedah membesarkan zakar dengan cara senaman kemutan yang kononnya amalan orang Arab.




Bagaimanapun, senaman kemutan dapat memberi tenaga dan kekuatan kepada ereksi dan ketika zakar yang erek itu dikemutkan ketika melakukan penetrasi faraj, maka mudah untuk menyalurkan ereksi dalam faraj dan mudah untuk bergerak lancar jika gerakkan zakar dilakukan dalam keadaan kemut. Malahan mengemut ketika erek dapat mengekalkan ereksi dan dapat bergerak dan mengubah posisi dan merendahkan kemungkinan darah tercicir keluar daripada otot zakar.




Kesimpulannya amalan kemut dan melakukan senaman kemut dapat menjaga kekuatan ereksi.