90% / 10% PRINCIPLE

This principle is so true and inspiring.



t is so basic and yet we often crowded by our emotion and can't actually see it.



After seeing it, you will find that we MUST be responsible for  what we do and the situation that we end up now.  There will be less meaningless complain in your life.



Spend about 5 minutes go through it and i beg your vision horizon will be widen and be more control of your life.



10% of life is made up of what happens to you.  90% of life is decided by how how react.  What does this mean?  We really have no control over the 10% of what happens to us.



We cannot stop the car from breaking down.  The plane will be late arriving, which throw our schedule off.  The driver may cut us off in traffic.



We have no control over this 10%.



The over 90% is different.



You determine the other 90%.



How?


By your reaction.



You cannot control the red light, but you can control your reaction.



Don't let people fool you, you can control how you react.



Let's use an example, you are eating breakfast with your family.  Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt.  you have no control over what just happened.



What happens next will be determined by how you react.



You curse, you harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.  She breaks down in tears.



After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.  A short verbal battle follows.



You stormed upstairs and change your shirt.  Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school.


She misses the bus.



Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school  Because you are late, you drive 40 miles in an hour in a 30mph speed limit.  After 15 minutes delay and throwing RM60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.



Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye, you find you forgot your briefcase.  Your day has started terrible.



As it continue, it seems to get worse and worse.  You look forward to coming home, when you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.



Why?


Because of how you reacted in the morning.


Why did you have a bad day?



A)  Did the coffee cause it?


B)  Did your daughter cause it?


C)  Did the policeman cause it?


D)  Did you cause it?



The answer is "D"



You have no control over what happened with the coffee.  How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your day.



Here is what could have and should have happened.



Coffee splashes over you.  Your daughter is about to cry.  You gently said'



"It's okey honey, you just need to be more careful next time"



Grabbing a towel you rushes upstairs.  After changing a new shirt and grab your briefcase, you come back downstairs in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.


She turns and waves.  You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.


Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.



Notice the difference?  Two different scenarios.  Both started the same.  Both ended differently.



WHY?



Because of how you REACTED.  You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.  The other 90% was determined by your reaction.



Here are some ways to apply 90% / 10% principle.



If someone says something negative about you.  Don't be a sponge.  Let the attack roll off like water on the glass.  You don't have to let the negative comments affect you!.



React properly and it will not ruin your day.  A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.



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